Friday, 6 March 2015

Things We Have Learnt This Week!

Hello everyone! Me and Rachel thought we would write a little post on things we have learnt this week. We've made some big steps with out confidence and anxiety so I'm going to share what's been happening lately.

Things We Have Learnt This Week -
1. Not all people are horrible. Okay, might sound stupid but we were bullied so badly in school that I actually hated people and I had to be homed schooled due to anxiety. I thought everyone was going to pick on me, laugh at me, hate me for being quiet for the rest of my life. It was so sad and I remember sitting aalone by myself all the time. Even now I have no friends because of my anxiety but for the past couple of weeks, I've realised not all people are going to be horrible to me. Most people are quite nice actually, haha! But I've been trying to be more social lately but going to drum lessons and talking more with others has made me realise that I've got to leave the past behind and move on with life. I can't let people that bullied me in school ruin how we both live now!

2. Social Anxiety gets better! Both me and Rachel never thought we'd go to drum lessons because I thought I'd die of a panic attack before I actually got in the room to learn. Oh, and because I don't have much experience with talking, I had no idea how to have a converstaion with someone! But guess what? We did it and now we're going to get some extra lessons on guitar! Once my social anxiety was so bad I never went outside the house but now I finally feel like me and Rach are getting more social. Obviously we suffer still but it gets better.

3. Buying clothes after not buying anything for a while is the best feeling ever. Before this week, I couldn't even the remember the last time I bought some clothes. But then I went on ASOS and broke my buying restriction and now I want to go crazy buying clothes haha! Clothes make me feel better though. The best therapy is retail therapy!

4. Cuddles with my dog Heidi cure sadness. My little Beagle/Jack Russell Heidi is our best friend in the whole entire world and no matter how low I feel, my little girl is always there for me and makes me laugh. And my older sister's dog, Megan, is such a great little comfort too!

5. Listening to 'softer' music is great too! We have both spent ages listening to rock/metal and of course, I listen to rock music ALL THE TIME. But Slipknot, Korn, Pantera aren't always relaxing when you feel anxious haha. I mean, they are my favourite bands - especially when I'm angry but I love listening to this band called Incubus too when I need music a little more rock than angry metal :)

Hope you liked this post! Have you learnt anything this week? Who is looking forward to ''The Following'' starting up again tomorrow? I am!
Leah and Rachel. x
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  1. I really enjoyed reading this positive post!
    I find treating everyone, even strangers, as if they are already a friend (unless/until they give a reason for you not to) really helps with meeting new people, experiencing niceness, building confidence etc! :)

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    1. I'm glad you liked it :) I think that really helps me too. Thanks for reading! x x x

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  2. This post has really put a smile on my face, I'm so happy you two are feeling a little more open and at ease with what's around you :) Good luck with the guitar lessons and conquering your social anxiety!

    ps. I love Incubus, too!

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    1. Aw, I'm so happy that you liked this post Gabrielle :) Thank you so much for your support! Incubus are just amazing. I'm in love with that band right now :p x

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  3. Good to hear that you guys have started to communicate more easily..hope you find some true friends too!

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  4. I enjoyed reading this it's horrible to be bullied I hope everything works out for you drumming lessons sound like a great way to socialise more x
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    1. Being bullied was the worst time for both of us and it really brought us down. We're both trying to build our confidence and going to music lessons really helps us. Thank you for reading! :) xx

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  5. Its nice that you have realized that not all people are horrible and your social anxiety is getting better. I hope you guys make a lot friends <3

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    1. Thank you so much! I'm glad I've realised that too. xx

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  6. thats a nice post :3

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  7. Such a great post, so sad to hear you got bullied at school.. I myself got bullied that I had to change schools which also didn't make the bullying stop... I blamed myself but then realise it's only because I was different and didn't let them influence me..

    Hope you have a great weekend !

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    1. Thanks! It's so sad that you got bullied too :( You're such a strong person as you stayed true to yourself. :) I hope you have a great weekend too! xx

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  8. this is such a cute post idea:)
    number 3 is SO true haha.

    lots of love & happy weekend xx

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  9. I love this post!! I used to suffer from anxiety too and never would talk to anyone but now I do public speaking and can talk to a room full of people without crying and running away!! It took me a very long time for me do get to that stage but it just shows you that actually it does get better as time goes on. Lovely post xx
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    1. Aw, I'm so glad that you're doing better with your anxiety! Thank you and I hope my anxiety goes with time too. xx

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  10. great and positive post,lovely!!

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  11. This was a great read, I really enjoyed it! I'm not into metal, but I love rock and Slipknot is one of my all time favorite bands.Have you heard The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus? If so, do you like them? xx

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    1. I've never heard of them before :) Thanks for reading and Slipknot are amazing! x

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  12. I agree with all of these!!! Retail therapy is seriously so helpful. It sounds terrible, but it really is!!

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    1. Retail therapy is the best kind of therapy! x

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  14. So sorry to hear about that and I wish things had been different! I am glad you were able to change and grow and learn from it! Retail therapy is definitely such a great feeling. Love reading your blog all the time and I really adore you both!

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    1. Aw thank you so much! This comment has made my day!! xx

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  15. I agree with everything !! The third point is really true ;) Sometimes even, not buy is better than buy ! Excuse my english but I think that you will understand what I mean ;) kisses ! http://valeriesdays.blogspot.fr/

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    1. I know what you mean :) Thanks for reading xx

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  16. I think cuddling with any pet cures sadness!
    Great post, so well written!

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    1. Thank you! Cuddling my little dog Heidi always cheers me up. xx

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  17. I loved this!
    I didn't go to school when I was younger and was home schooled for other reasons but I spent so much time on my own and didn't trust anyone. I'm getting better at this now!

    Incubus are amazing give me Idiot Box any day!

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    1. Thank you! I'm so glad that your feeling a lot better now :) Incubus are so amazing!! x

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  18. I think I need to try number 3 ahah :P
    xx

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  19. This is such a lovely post with a string positive vibe to it. Glad that things are better for the both of you and yes, cuddling with your pet cures everything. xx

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    1. Thank you! My Heidi always makes me feel better. xx

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  21. awh thats so sad about school, how anyone can bully is beyond me! yous are both gorgeous and seem like such lovely people:)

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    1. I know. Bullies are the worst :( Thank you so much. You don't know how much your comment has made our day :) xxx

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  22. Absolutely love this post, I love your positive outlook! I think pet cuddles and some breathing can do wonders... :)
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    1. Thank you! Pets are the best therapy and I think deep breathing helps a lot too! x

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  23. Sorry to hear about your problems! Can't imagine why you were bullied - maybe you were too nice. People always think that who's kind is weak, and they exploit it. But I think that who has a twin already has a best friend for life, so you don't have to rely too much on other people, just do it if you think they merit it!!! I'm glad you're coming out of your difficulties now!! :))

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    1. Thank you so much :) Me and Leah really are best friends so we did find it hard making friends as we're both really shy as well. Thank you for your lovely comment! x

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  24. Some people are mean but the trick is not to let it affect your life, yeah it sucks but you don't need to be around these people (I've been there too many times, it is the worst) being with people who are nice and actually care about you is the best :)

    I too find dogs are the best for cheering you up. My older dog really knows when I am sad and she comes over to check to see if I am ok. My puppy isn't really sure on things like this yet but lately she does seem to know when I am upset.
    Oh I have a story to tell (Hope you don't mind haha) One time I was sick with the stomach flu and my oldest dog was by my side the whole time, she would kiss me every now and again and it was the cutest :D
    Goodness sorry for this long comment :P

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    1. Thanks for your comment and I'm glad that you're now around peopl that care about you :) Dogs are the best and my Heidi always loves her cuddles! My sisters dog Megan was from a dog home and she was abused. She finds it hard to cuddle up to me but she's getting there :) So cute that your dog was looking after you when you were sick, how cute! x

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  25. Such a lovely post! So positive, thanks for sharing! Happy weekend girls!
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    1. Thank you! I hope you have a great weekend too! x

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  26. Awh such a sweet post and I hope you 2 girls will start to feel a lot better soon. Just forget about the bad memories and remember the good ones!
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  27. I really enjoyed reading this post, I hope you’re both enjoying the drum lessons :) I’m glad to hear that the anxiety is getting better, and definitely want to see an Asos haul ;)

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    1. The drum lessons are great and I'm even getting guitar lessons now :D Thank you and I'll definitely do an ASOS haul! xx

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  28. These are such lovely and positive points! I hope you 2 girls are okay :)

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  29. Love this post! I feel like we really learn something new every day and it's awesome to pass that on to others :) So awesome that you took the drum class and overcame that hurdle!! Hope it was super fun :)

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    1. Thank you! & yeah, it's great learning a new instrument! x x

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  30. Love this, was great to read! x

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  31. NUMBER 3! SO TRUE! I love the feeling of getting something new after ages of not treating yourself!
    Hope you've had a great saturday,
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    1. Theres nothing better than saving up and then buying everything you've been wanting! x

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  32. I love listening to soft music especially when I work. :)
    Happy weekend!

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    1. I love it too. Hope you're having a great weekend too. xx

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  33. I love #3! that is so true about so many things!

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  34. Love this list lol

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  35. I really enjoyed reading this post! I have suffered with anxiety as well, and it can be pretty debilitating at times. I'm so proud though, that you're getting out and taking drum lessons! Some people are truly awful, and it's awful that bullying happens, but there are people out there that will accept you for you, you are the only one of you and that means your special and should be celebrated :) Love reading your girls' blog, x! Hope drum lessons go good, once you get the hang of it it can be so fun!

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    1. Thank you so much for your lovely comment, it really has put a smile on my face. Thank you so much Becky. xxxx

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  36. Lovely post and I completely understand where you're coming from! I've been bullied in the past and do find it hard these days to come up with conversation when meeting new people and do get really nervous around people :') I think blogging has really helped my confidence and self belief as its a place where I can be creative and meet like minded people. Good luck with the lessons <3

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    1. Bullying is awful and I'm sad that you had to go through it too :( Blogging has really helped me and I'm glad it's helping you too! x

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  37. I really enjoyed reading this post! I'm glad your anxiety is improving and that you're going to drum lessons, you must be so proud!

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  38. Love the inspiring post! Happy Sunday, dear! xoxo

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  39. Lovely post, love the bit about social anxiety getting better :) Following you on twitter/insta now! :) Rebecca | www.rebeccamariee.blogspot.com xx

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  40. I'm glad things are getting better. I agree, shopping can be such a good therapy! :D
    Have a lovely week~!

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    1. Thank you! Shoppins is definately the best therapy! I just love getting new make up and clothes! x x

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  41. Yes, you are right.
    Not all people are horrible.
    Horrible things is normal.
    If you don't experience that, it means your not human.
    So cheer up dear.
    Your one of us.
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    1. Thank you! Horrible things happen, but I try to move on now even if it SO hard, haha. x x

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  42. nice story.
    you both are strong girls! keep going!
    i agree that everything will get better.

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  43. It's great when you realise not all people are horrible. Sometimes a person (a stranger even) will do something nice and it will put the biggest smile on my face.
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    1. I'm glad I've realised too - it made me feel like a bitter person :( & I'm like that too! Small things mean the most :D x

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  44. Wahhh! All your favourite bands are my favourite bands (especially Pantera <3) I love finding bloggers who like similar music to me! :)
    x GNAR MOSH x

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